Who Are You When No One Is Watching?

January 16

Who Are You When No One Is Watching?

Identity beyond roles, labels, and social masks

Event Details

Location: Angket Pavilion, Chiang Mai (accessible by Grab)

Meeting Point: Lobby

Please send a WhatsApp message upon arrival to receive room access

Fran WhatsApp: +66 81 270 7730

Group WhatsApp:

https://chat.whatsapp.com/FBXo0wBnRJs4LlrpltquzM?mode=ems_copy_c

About the Event

Most people know who they are in public.

The version that functions well.

The version that fits expectations.

The version that earns approval.

But who exists when there is no audience?

When no one is watching decisions, reactions, or desires?

When curiosity, contradiction, impulse, or longing quietly surface?

Psychiatrist Carl Jung referred to these hidden aspects as the Shadow — the parts of the self that are suppressed or exiled because they do not fit a protected image. As Esther Perel has explored in her work on identity and desire, human beings are often far more complex and conflicted than the lives they allow themselves to live openly.

Living abroad can intensify this split. Reinvention, adaptation, and curated identities become survival tools. What remains hidden may grow louder, not because it is wrong, but because it has gone unheard.

Who Are You When No One Is Watching? is a reflective and thought-provoking workshop and meetup exploring the space between public identity and private self.

This is not therapy.

This is not confession or exposure.

Nothing is required to be shared.

The space is designed for honest inquiry, quiet reflection, and respectful dialogue.

Themes Explored

• Public Identity vs. Private Self — who is performed and why

• Hidden Desires and Shadow Aspects — the parts allowed only in private

• Self-Acceptance — what shifts when judgment is released

Listening is welcome.

Speaking selectively is welcome.

Keeping things private is welcome.

Presence matters more than performance.

Often, what is hidden shapes life more than what is shown.

Sometimes, simply acknowledging it loosens its grip.

Host

Fran

With Korean DNA and a life shaped by cross-cultural experiences since the age of seven, Fran is a global traveler based in Chiang Mai since 2024. She is the creator of the YouTube channel Fran’s Fresh Start in Chiang Mai and an active member of the local expat community.

Fran hosts intentional gatherings that move beyond small talk, creating grounded and safe spaces for real conversations around identity, self-honesty, and human connection—without pressure, fixing, or judgment.

Program Outline

15 minutes — Arrival and grounding: “A Side of Me Few People Ever See”

30 minutes — A simple framework on identity, shadow, and desire

30 minutes — Small group sharing with deep listening

30 minutes — Reflection on what changes when hiding stops

30 minutes — Open mingling and connection

Contribution

200 THB

Limited spots available

Group WhatsApp:

https://chat.whatsapp.com/FBXo0wBnRJs4LlrpltquM?mode=ems_copy_c

Come curious.

Leave a little more honest.

What is discovered is yours to keep.